1. Vignesh vikram
2.Siva
3. Shyam
Monday 15 August 2011
Saturday 5 December 2009
Child Knows The Best
A child may outperform the parent, but it's a rare parent that can let go and allow him to soar.
If the children of achievers have tough standards to live up to ,children of the achievers too have a different set of problems to face.
In fact breaking out of the mold and marching to your own drummer becomes more difficult when the breaking away is beyond the understanding of the parent and is resented by him as a perceived slight. Indeed an underachiever parent can be as much an impediment in the onward trajectory of the child, as an achiever could be misleading.
Consider this, a child is usually better looking, taller, better educated and better adapted to the environment, he’s also more likely to understand instinctively the need of the times. Rigid in his beliefs and lifelong practices, a parent is convinced that he is better equipped to understand which is the best. Used as he is to being consulted for all matters, he finds it tough to understand that his child is way beyond he expected him to be.
Sometimes we take our duty as parents too seriously. A father will insist on giving backseat instructions even if the son is driving perfectly. A mother will impart worldly knowledge seriously even if the daughter can actually teach her mom a lesson or two on the subject! No wonder, the constant refrain of next generation parents is “CHILL”.
They probably just need a bit of guidance and sympathy while we insist on smothering them with instruction .Parents should be neither anchors to hold back a child, nor sails to take them forward. Experience is no doubt important. But what is critical to grow with time and not just understand, but be one with the change of rhythm as life moves on.
We have to understand we know what is best for us. Our rhythms best match the times we stride. If we learn to listen the rhythms of our body, mind and soul and base our choices on that, we cannot go wrong. Our instinctive choices are likely to be better than the best considered choice any one makes for us. Yes even our parents.
Like a friend said in exasperation the other day. “There has to be an expiry date for blaming our parents for everything that goes wrong in our life!” We have to learn early in our life to make our own choices, and to live with them. If we choose to fall inline with what our parents want, for whatever reason, we do not have the moral fiber to turn around and blame them later for whatever goes wrong with our life! The choice was always ours….
If the children of achievers have tough standards to live up to ,children of the achievers too have a different set of problems to face.
In fact breaking out of the mold and marching to your own drummer becomes more difficult when the breaking away is beyond the understanding of the parent and is resented by him as a perceived slight. Indeed an underachiever parent can be as much an impediment in the onward trajectory of the child, as an achiever could be misleading.
Consider this, a child is usually better looking, taller, better educated and better adapted to the environment, he’s also more likely to understand instinctively the need of the times. Rigid in his beliefs and lifelong practices, a parent is convinced that he is better equipped to understand which is the best. Used as he is to being consulted for all matters, he finds it tough to understand that his child is way beyond he expected him to be.
Sometimes we take our duty as parents too seriously. A father will insist on giving backseat instructions even if the son is driving perfectly. A mother will impart worldly knowledge seriously even if the daughter can actually teach her mom a lesson or two on the subject! No wonder, the constant refrain of next generation parents is “CHILL”.
They probably just need a bit of guidance and sympathy while we insist on smothering them with instruction .Parents should be neither anchors to hold back a child, nor sails to take them forward. Experience is no doubt important. But what is critical to grow with time and not just understand, but be one with the change of rhythm as life moves on.
We have to understand we know what is best for us. Our rhythms best match the times we stride. If we learn to listen the rhythms of our body, mind and soul and base our choices on that, we cannot go wrong. Our instinctive choices are likely to be better than the best considered choice any one makes for us. Yes even our parents.
Like a friend said in exasperation the other day. “There has to be an expiry date for blaming our parents for everything that goes wrong in our life!” We have to learn early in our life to make our own choices, and to live with them. If we choose to fall inline with what our parents want, for whatever reason, we do not have the moral fiber to turn around and blame them later for whatever goes wrong with our life! The choice was always ours….
Tuesday 13 January 2009
Greg Brotherton Sculptures
With a passion for all types of design, Greg Brotherton has built a diverse and successful career. As a designer, illustrator, sculptor and CG animator, he has had critical acclaim, been featured in international art magazines and is sought after for everything from product design to feature film animation.
Ben Goossens Creatives
Cool creative photos with their own style. You will surelly like this kind of art.
Mercedes Benz BlueZero Concept
The Mercedes Benz BlueZero Concept will be debuting at the 2009 Detroit Auto Show in three versions, each equipped with the industry buzz-words able to improve fuel economy: all-electric, hybrid and fuel cell. The Concept BlueZero E-Cell runs a lithium-ion battery, can recharge on two hours of plug-in time, and delivers a 62-mile range. The Concept BlueZero F-Cell runs on the same electric motor but gets its power from an on-board fuel cell.
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